I am a psychologist. I started into school thinking that I would become an engineer, in fact I was a chemical engineering major when I started at BYU way back in 1984. I figured I could make some money using all of those sweet math and science skills that came pretty easily to me. I chose to become a psychologist when I realized that I have a passion for assisting others to live their life on purpose. There is far too much negativity, fear, and doubt in the world. I am on a mission to lift and inspire my fellow human beings to create and live a life they love. When I made the shift to psychology, I found out quickly that not only do I have a love and passion for what I do, I’m also really good at it. When I do my thing, people’s lives are changed for the better. I don’t say this to brag, but to acknowledge that I am in my element. I believe that everyone has a “sweet spot” or a “unique mission” in life, and your sweet spot is when you do what you love for the people who love what you do. I also believe that you have the ability to create a life around your unique mission which has a two-fold effect: First, you begin to love your life – Second, you generate wealth. Some people have commented to me, “Dr. Paul, you are so lucky to have a job that you love!” Lucky??! I made this.
I am a man of faith. I make no apologies for this because it is my faith that gives meaning and context to everything that I do. Those who work with me are perfectly welcomed and encouraged to include discussions about faith and the role that it plays in their life. I’m not here to impose my beliefs on others, and I’m not here as your spiritual advisor. I do believe, however, that our relationship with our creator is the first key relationship we have, and that as we understand our source, life begins to make more sense. I’m happy to share my faith and beliefs with anyone who asks – feel free to ask me about this or get a quick summary here.
In addition to my unique mission and my faith, the love of my life is that sweet lady in the picture with me. Vicki and I were married in 1988 and it just keeps getting better. We have four wonderful children – Ryan, Adam, Brennan, and Lyndi. We have made our home in the beautiful mountains of Utah. I think the best is yet to come!
I was raised in the high mountain valleys of Utah, where my Mormon Pioneer ancestors fled after being persecuted for their religious beliefs. My family has been faithful members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints for generations back on both sides. I was raised in this faith, and have matured into my own commitment and understanding of the principles of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Vicki and I met as we were both serving voluntary proselyting missions for the Church in Finland. This gave us a good start on our relationship with common beliefs and experiences – and we both speak fluent Finnish as a result! We believe that family relationships extend beyond this mortal life, and that through adherence to certain principles we can be together forever. This adds great meaning and value to our lives. We have raised our children in the Church as well, and at the time of this writing three of our sons have also served missions; Ryan in Fresno California (speaking Spanish), Adam in Stockholm Sweden, and Brennan in Los Angeles California (speaking Korean). We both commit a portion of our time to voluntary service in the Church and in the community where we live. The Church has a lay ministry with no paid clergy. I have served twice as the Bishop of a congregation, and currently teach a Sunday School class of 14 and 15 year old youth. My faith is a great blessing in my life and has been a defining factor for me as I have created my purposes.
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